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Twenty years after her brother’s murder, Lori continues to advocate within the criminal justice system for justice and offer workshops on living with an unsolved homicide at the Parents of Murdered Children (POMC) Annual Conference. She holds a BA in Communications from Boston University and an MA in Transforming Spirituality from Seattle University. This website was created to provide validation, encouragement and resources. She also writes for https://www.opentohope.com/
Contact: grandelori@gmail.com
10 Coping Strategies for Living Without Closure
- Live what is true for you, while honoring others’ experiences.
- Direct feelings into action via focused physical release.
- Express thoughts through writing/journaling.
- Notice patterns in reactions; acknowledge and accept triggers.
- Accept and embrace all of who you are.
- Find and read a daily quote of inspiration.
- Reframe: your reality, the story and your response.
- Practice breathing deeply and slowly.
- Allow for progressing forward and falling backward.
- Act from your heart without dependence on the outcome.
"We must accept finite disappointment but never lose infinite hope."
Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
Forging a path through the unresolved
From feeling powerless . . .
Fostering a sense of control through the powerlessness of an unsolved homicide lies in how we see our story, how we live it and validate it for our own well-being. Murder, Shame and Redemption
to transforming defeat.
- Identity Integration Integrated Advocacy
- Externalization Externalizing the Unfinished Task
- Validation Validation and Manifestation
- Reframing Changing the Narrative